Do you ever find yourself giving up things that you love to do and know are good for your well-being in order to give your time and energy to everything and everyone else? This can easily turn into exhaustion, resentment, discontent and high levels of stress in the attempt to meet everyone’s needs but your own. If this sounds true for you then it is time to consider your non-negotiable.
A non-negotiable is something that you want to maintain in your life that is for you. It is a source of support, and enjoyment that you know is right for you to have consistently in your life. For example, it may be that you need time for daily meditation and this is going to be your non-negotiable. Set a realistic time and place for your daily meditation. Vow not to give this up for others or allow yourself to be distracted with daily tasks. Remind yourself that It is important that you primarily take care of your well-being in order to be of service to others. So how can this happen?
Here are a few points to get you started,
Commit to a time in your daily schedule. Set it in your calendar as an appointment with yourself. Would you try your very best to keep an appointment with a friend or client? Most likely. So, treat yourself in the same way. Make this appointment with yourself a priority.
Create a physical space that is specifically for your meditation or other activity. Make it inviting and somewhere that you look forward to being. It does not have to be a large space. It may just be having a special cushion to sit on during your meditation and a candle. Ask others to respect your space.
Look forward to your time with you Treat it as special and sacred. Ask family members to respect that you do not wish to be disturbed during this time. Remind them that your meditation practice helps you to feel less stressed and that is good for everyone!
A daily meditation practice may not be your choice of non-negotiable However whatever is your choice remember to choose an activity that is enjoyable and important to you. Don’t make it a chore or externally imposed. Your non-negotiable should feel you miss it extremely if there is the occasional time when it is not possible to follow through.
Linda Varnam is a Certified Yoga Therapist, Yoga Teacher and Qigong Instructor. She believes that traditional wisdom teachings of the practices of qigong and yoga offer very practical, accessible and profound tools for living joyfully and passionately in todays world.
All yoga and qigong instruction is not a substitute for proper medical care. Yoga Therapy, Yoga Instruction and Qigong Instruction is not diagnostic and Chanvar and its associates do not claim to make any such diagnosis and/or make any definite statement as to the prognosis for applying yoga or qigong practices.